Attention Seeking Behaviour in Dogs

Although we love our pets dearly, constant attention seeking behaviour can soon become annoying and embarrassing! If your dog needs constant attention, he may bark, paw, or whine at you or all three; it can be exhausting! 

Understand the signs and causes and learn how to stop your Cocker Spaniel from demanding your attention!

Is Attention Seeking Behaviour Cute?

When a puppy seeks your attention, it's often cute and endearing, but when your puppy grows up, and your adult Cocker Spaniel wants you all to himself, it can become a very different matter altogether.

There's a big difference between a puppy barking and jumping up at you for attention and an adult dog doing the same!

We often give in to our dog's attention seeking behaviour.

We do this because we love our dogs and can't bear to ignore them or because we sometimes just want a bit of peace and quiet. We all want an easy life!

Pleeeease!

Unfortunately, doing so only teaches them that their unsociable antics work, encouraging them to do it more and more because they know it works!

What behaviour you accept from your Cocker Spaniel (or don't) is entirely down to you; it all boils down to personal choice.

And just in case you're not sure what I'm talking about, check out the following:

What Is Attention Seeking Behaviour?

Attention seeking comes in many forms, some endearing and others not so charming.

We must decide which behaviours are acceptable and which are not. Those behaviours listed below are my idea of good or non-acceptable, but you should choose your own.

Acceptable Attention Seeking Behaviours

There are some attention seeking behaviours that I'm happy to accept, such as;

• when my Cocker brings me one of his favourite toys and places it on my lap,
  
  
• when he picks up a toy and circles just out of my reach, hoping I'll chase him,
  
  
• when I'm taking time out to relax (reading or enjoying a leisurely cuppa), Max will saunter over to me with his head slightly lowered, tail wagging and gently nudge me or give me his paw,
  
  
• Sometimes he'll put his head on my lap and look up at me appealingly with those big, brown, liquid eyes as if to say, 'Pleeeeeease'.

Now, who could resist that?

This is definitely attention seeking behaviour!

Unwanted Attention Seeking Behaviours 

Unfortunately, there is other attention seeking behaviours that I'm not so happy to go along with, like the one shown in the photo above!

Please take a look below; I think you'll agree that these behaviours are simply unacceptable. 

• When your Cocker Spaniel is so pleased to see you that he forgets his manners and jumps up just as you're trying to get through the door with your weekly shopping.
  
  
• He constantly barks to get your attention. This can be really annoying, especially if you're busy on the phone.
  
  
• Your dog jumps on and off the furniture and runs around in circles. That's one attention seeking behaviour I can live without!
  
  
• He steals one of your socks or something else that doesn't belong to him and runs off with it, hoping that you'll chase him.
  
  
• Your pet sits on your toes or leans against you.
  
  
• Your dog begins licking you to get you to pet him.
  
  
• He resorts to pooping and peeing in your home...now that definitely gets my attention!

Throw the stick please!

• Your dog whines for attention (Max used to do this constantly, but by ignoring him, he soon learned that it didn't work!)
  
  
• I've even heard of dogs actually vomiting to get their owner's attention!
  
  
• Begging for food is another attention seeking behaviour that I don't particularly like.
  
  
• Feigning lameness? Really? (Oh, they can be so devious!).
  
  
• Your Cocker chews and destroys objects around the house, knowing that this always gets a reaction from you.
  
  
• He pulls at your clothes.
  
  
• Biting and nipping are other ways of grabbing your attention.
  
  
• In extreme cases, some dogs may become aggressive to get what they want.
  
  
• Do any of these sound familiar? I'm betting that at least some of them do!

In the above examples, your Cocker Spaniel uses attention seeking behaviour to get what he wants from you.

Clever eh?

What Causes Attention Seeking in Dogs?

If your Cocker Spaniel's attention seeking behaviour is getting worse and becoming a problem for you. There may be a couple of reasons for this:

• Boredom: your dog is often left alone for too long, causing excessive attention seeking behaviour when you return home.
  
  
• Excess energy: he may not be getting enough exercise, resulting in way too much unspent energy. And don't forget that dogs also need mental stimulation as well as physical activity.
  
  
• Because he gets away with it: your Cocker Spaniel wants something from you and has learned that all he has to do is use one of his attention seeking antics.
  
  It's as simple as that!

Boredom Can Encourage Attention Seeking

You can relieve the boredom, or stop it from happening in the first place, by making sure your Cocker Spaniel has lots of stimulating toys and chew bones to keep him occupied.

Exercise Will Help To Keep Him Occupied and Calm!

Physical exercise and mental stimulation will have a calming, relaxing effect on any dog.

The best thing you can do to help stop your Spaniel from becoming bored is to burn off his excess energy and tire him out.

You can do this by ensuring he has a regular exercise, play, and training routine. (This is a good idea regardless of whether he's displaying attention seeking behaviour or not).

His routine should be something along the lines of the following:

Come on in, the water's lovely!

• Take your dog for a brisk one-hour walk each day, or walk him twice a day if you have the time;

• Play a few games with him for 15-20 minutes each day, or throw him a ball or a Frisbee to help him to burn off all that excess energy;

• Reinforce his basic obedience training for a few minutes each day to help stimulate his mind. It's easy enough to do and takes no time at all.
  
  For example, I ask my Cocker Spaniel to sit and wait before I feed him, before I put his collar on, and always before I open the door to let him in or out - in other words, I make Max work for what he wants, AND for the attention I give him!

• I'm sure your Cocker's diet will be healthy, but did you know that hyperactivity can sometimes be caused by certain foods in his diet?
  
  If you think your pet may be hyperactive and you're worried about it, I recommend you chat with your vet.
  
  
• Give him a job to do - work him! Satisfy his basic hunting instincts by letting him sniff out some hidden treats around the home or in the garden. Encourage him to find them and watch that tail wag!

Making sure your Cocker gets plenty of exercise and play may be enough to curb attention seeking behaviours, and you could see an improvement within a week or so!

How To Stop Your Dog's Attention Seeking!

If your Cocker's manners don't improve as much as you'd like, read on for more help and advice!

I just love to run...!

Don't Give Him What He Wants!

As we've seen, our pets will try to attract our attention in many different (and sometimes imaginative) ways, and our response will usually vary between:

• giving them what they want, 
• pushing them away,
• shouting at them to be quiet!

All of these are wrong, but I'm willing to bet we're all guilty of doing the same!

By saying your dog's name or speaking to him, your dog will see this as a reward. So if you ask him to stop, be quiet, or get down, in his eyes, you're rewarding him!

Also, if you touch your dog or move him out of the way, your dog views this as rewarding him for his behaviour; you're giving him the attention he's seeking!

Our dogs soon learn to get what they want by behaving a certain way.

Unfortunately, this (unwanted) attention seeking behaviour soon becomes habitual because your dog has learned it always works!

If your dog's behaviour isn't appropriately managed, he may develop serious behavioural problems, some of which owners may find too challenging to handle.

Unfortunately, many Cocker Spaniels are currently sitting in rescue centres because of this lack of understanding.

"The recommended response is to ignore him altogether:
please don't speak to him, don't look at him and don't touch him
- in your dog's eyes, these actions are all forms of reward."

The Key Is Not To React

When our dogs display attention seeking behaviours, we know that always giving them what they want, when they want, is inadvisable.

However, as I said earlier, it is subjective, and if you think it's okay to give your Cocker Spaniel a cuddle when he 'demands' it, that's fine.

However, I think you'll agree there are other attention seeking behaviours that we don't want and shouldn't tolerate. Behaviours such as jumping up, excessive barking or whining, for example.

We shouldn't react to our dog's behaviour. If we react, we're not only confirming that the antics have worked, but we may also be (inadvertently) helping to increase the dog's dominance by following and not leading!

My advice is to always ignore your dog's attention seeking behaviour and reward him only when he's well-behaved or quiet.

Reward Good Behaviour

Ironically, we tend to ignore our dogs when they're quiet and (unwittingly) reward them (with touch and the sound of our voice) when they're not.

This is the exact opposite of what we should be doing!

So, the next time you see your Cocker Spaniel behaving well or resting quietly, why not gently stroke him and tell him he's a good boy?

Rewarding your dog when he's quiet will help teach him that nice things happen to him, like belly rubs or cuddles when he's good or playing quietly!

Ignore Your Dog's Antics!

The worst punishment you can give an attention seeking dog is to deprive him of your attention and affection. So the next time he's making demands, the best thing you can do is ignore him.

Yes, I know it can be easier said than done, but trust me. Have patience, and you'll see that it really does work.

Don't react to your dog's demands.

Whatever attention seeking behaviour your dog displays, you must remain focused and not give in to his demands. Stay calm, don't speak to him, don't touch him, and don't make eye contact (he will view all these as forms of reward).

Is Your Dog Is Barking For Attention?

• So, for example, if your dog is barking for your attention, ignore him. Continue with what you were doing (unpacking the shopping or reading).
  
  
• I know it doesn't make us feel good to ignore our dogs, but we must teach them to quietly wait until we're ready for them. Besides, if not addressed, this behaviour will only get worse over time.

A dog barking for attention is unwanted behaviour!

• Ignoring him almost certainly won't work the first time around. Let's face it, our dogs can be very persistent, so if he persists, or becomes boisterous, take him into another room and leave him until he's calmed down.
  
  
• Don't show annoyance or anger; stay in control and remain calm and unemotional.
  
  
• Don't allow your Cocker back into the room until he's quiet for at least 10 seconds. The trick is to wait for a lull in the barking and only let him into the room when he's stopped; otherwise, he'll learn that barking for attention eventually works!
  
  
• Make eye contact with him and put him into the submissive 'Down-Stay' position for a few seconds before letting him back into the room.
  
  
• Once your boy is quiet, praise him and give him a stroke or a pat, but then carry on with what you were doing.
  
  
• If he starts barking again...rinse and repeat. 

Above all, be consistent!

What If That Doesn't Work? stop his barking

If moving your Cocker Spaniel to another room fails to stop his barking, you may like to consider using a barking deterrent.

If you'd like some information on how to stop your dog from barking, you'll find lots of help and advice here.

Attention Seeking Behavior: Summary

As the saying goes, 'There's no such thing as a free lunch', so make your dog work for anything you give him.

• Ignore any constant demands for your time and affection.
• Make sure he has plenty of exercise.
• Organize daily play sessions with your dog.
• Practice basic obedience commands regularly.
• Reinforce your dog's good behaviour by rewarding him for behaving how you want him to.

Never reward his attention seeking behaviour.

The bottom line is, if your dog wants attention, give it to him, but do so on your terms - not his!

When your Cocker Spaniel responds the way you want, you can give him what he is asking for, food, affection, etc.

Doing so will reward him for following your commands; you're rewarding your dog's good behaviour, NOT his attention-seeking behaviour!